Why do Chinese children lose the future if they don't smile

Now, when parents look at their children's exquisite clothes, food and toys, they always sincerely sigh, "how happy the children are now!" Is that really the case? Linda Kamla, an American psychologist, pointed out at the 28th International psychological conference that the smile of 3-year-old American children is 55.6% more than that of their Chinese counterparts Smile is the external benchmark of happiness What makes Chinese children happier than American children? First of all, parents pay too much attention to the early education of knowledge, which is contrary to children's nature of exploring the world with their senses It is said that a mother in Russia went to Pavlov, a famous physiological psychologist, with her child born for three days: "when should we start to educate the child?" Pavlov replied, "it's about two and a half days after birth." However, what Pavlov said about early childhood education is not that Chinese parents understand reading, literacy, reciting ancient poetry, Qin, chess, calligraphy and painting, but that it is emotional education and kinship education in the form of care, love, touch and kiss The main task of infants and young children is to explore the world and explore fun with their bodies through games, and play whatever they want, so that they can feel comfortable and happy Second, parents don't believe in their children's ability to control and substitute too much "Feeding" is the most distinctive way of parenting with Chinese characteristics Chasing after children and feeding them, "learning tiger and whine" makes children open their mouths, and children have to ride on their father's shoulders to eat In fact, eating and drinking Lhasa is an instinct of human beings The so-called instinct is the ability to be able to do without teaching yourself Seven or eight month old children can actually eat by themselves At the beginning, they can send it to their nostrils with their hands, overturn their jobs, and slowly find their mouths and use spoons to eat From the early childhood, we should try our best to let children do it by themselves, and the parents only provide guidance, which is related to the establishment of children's self-confidence Confident children, smile naturally more, more brilliant Finally, the anxiety of parents' survival causes immediate benefits, which interferes with children's calm growth Nowadays, parents are all in the fierce competition environment, and the resulting survival anxiety also affects the concept of parenting I wish that the children would show the tendency of "becoming a great tool" in the early days The "early wisdom" would be raised blindly, and the "late maturity" would jump As a matter of fact, children's civilization is early and late, and it has its own stage Pulling up the seedlings and promoting them will only help The mastery of knowledge and skills should be carried out after the age of 3 The education of knowledge and skills before primary school should focus on the process rather than the result It is the most important to cultivate children's desire for knowledge out of interest and sense of achievement, a calm and happy attitude towards things In a word, it is EQ rather than knowledge and skills that determine the success and happiness of a child's whole life Losing happiness means losing the future Chinese parents should not let their children lose on the happy starting line when they are young.